Comments on: Kill ‘em with kindness.

By: Erica

Erica — Sun, 07 Mar 2010 16:46:44 +0000

@ Deauna: I got major “in the closet” side eye too my whole family like o_O LMAO. They couldn’t imagine not wanting a relaxer… crazy…

@ Savvy: Ok kinda off topic and a little long winded (bear with me lol): When I was only flirting with the idea of going natural I used to do the “wash and go” to lengthen the time between touch ups. My cousin’s girlfriend moved in she saw me doing my hair and I noticed her looking at my hair more often. She would always refer to her hair as “nappy” she had virtually NO edges, it was stick straight, THIN and HARD. So one day she turned her nose up said to me “I thought you had “good hair” but it’s all those products you use.” like I had let her down or something lol, like I committed curl fraud :\ by using a product (conditioner, and frizz control products I’m a certified PJ lol) to tame my hair. I was just wondering if you (or any readers who want to comment) have ever came across this sort of sentiment… Might write an article on this…

By: Deauna

Deauna — Sat, 06 Mar 2010 23:13:39 +0000

I get the good hair comments too. Or ‘you got a nice shaped head so it looks good on you’. LOL. I used to ask what that meant, but now I just say ‘well, you don’t know how it looks on you if you don’t try it.’ Nice-shaped head….

Lorrett, my mother asked me if I was a lesbian the first time I cut my hair short. I just looked at her.

By: Savvy

Savvy — Thu, 04 Mar 2010 14:13:55 +0000

Hi Erica! Yes, I’ve heard that one about a hundred times. I always end up showing folks people of my hair right after I wash it. they’re always so surprised that it looks JUST like theirs!

By: Erica

Erica — Thu, 04 Mar 2010 14:04:31 +0000

Talking about hair with people who have relaxers is something I have learned not to do anymore. I used to be a bit of a “compost policewoman” I went natural 3 years ago and never looked back! Ok I live in Massachusetts and we have some of the most HUMID summers clear of Florida, so I won’t lie, maybe I peeked back a little on a hot day, but not enough to turn into a pillar of salt lol. ANYHOO I hate hearing:

Relaxed person: Well you can do that natural thang… you got good hair. Me, I got naps!

By: Savvy

Savvy — Tue, 02 Mar 2010 05:41:23 +0000

LOL! Omg Lorrett, PLEASE don’t hit your parents! They’re just not used to it yet. Be strong girl, be strong.

By: Lorrett

Lorrett — Tue, 02 Mar 2010 05:33:26 +0000

Mom says, ” You still didn’t get a perm”? Dad tells host Mom, ” DID YOU SEE HER HAIR”! They constantly provoke me with comments like that and not just aiming at my hair! You should teach me some nice words to tell them because I have none for them. Remember that scene from the movie “Two Can Play That Game”? When Vivica punched the heck out of Gabrielle Union in her mind? That’s what goes on in my mind.

By: Savvy

Savvy — Mon, 01 Mar 2010 20:03:56 +0000

LOL! “Life is too short to be healthy”?! that’s the funniest thing I’ve heard in awhile!

By: misslycia

misslycia — Mon, 01 Mar 2010 19:47:59 +0000

Oh my goodness, I’ve heard it all. My favorite one is, “Life is too short to be healthy.” lol. I have to remember that (most) people mean well, so I don’t take it too seriously anymore.

I do agree with you that the best thing is to lead by example. That goes a long way.